Sunday, October 30, 2011

More Stories From Real Life

Yesterday, I spent the afternoon and evening in the dorm office. So the weekends go. I bring my grading with hopes of getting it done while accomplishing a long stint in the office.
The afternoon went beautifully. But I found myself getting a little punchy by 8pm.

A Portrait of 8-10pm, in three parts

Part I:  Sitting Next to the Wireless Router

Rika comes in. Her back hurts often. We talk about what kind of treatment she might need to look into this week. Rika remains, pretending to study vocabulary for the SATs, but really just talking to me (better practice, anyway, we all agree).

Sherrie enters the office. She begins to speak in Chinese to someone on the other end of her computer.

Hue comes in and sits next to Sherrie. They are best friends. They do not speak to each other now, each plugged in to their respective devices. Sherrie's volume always rising; Hue never making a sound.

Gow (a squat 15-year-old from China, an incredible pianist, the sweetest and funniest of all the students) comes in with his computer. He asks me whether I can't make his computer play all for a list of illegally downloaded video clips. It's all in Chinese, except a few command buttons. I say "no," I can't help. I couldn't help if it were all in English.

Rika leaves, called away to something. Gow sits at the desk near me, occasionally asking me questions about movies I like. Slowly, I realize that the smell I have been hardly noticing is emanating from this boy. He is edging ever closer, refusing to raise his voice as Sherrie's conversation grows louder and I keep asking him to repeat himself.

Sherrie gets excited sometimes. Gow looks behind, furtively annoyed with Sherrie. I tell her to take her talking elsewhere. She leaves. Gow takes her seat and hunches over his computer.

Part II: Still Sitting Next to the Wireless Router

Andy has been pacing around the downstairs with John and Wu (all Chinese guys). I am speaking with a student when Andy hands me his phone, "I can't understand," he says with his Brit-Chinese accent. I take the phone, "hello?" I hear something garbled "...food."

"I'm sorry? Who is this?"

"Chinese food." The voice is muffled, and has a deep, not-Chinese accent. Could it be Mexican? Seriously? I look at John and Wu.

"Are you guys ordering Chinese food?" They nod enthusiastically with big smiles that could be suspicious or merely indicative of their fondness for Chinese food. I look to Andy: he is laughing with Rika. Is this a joke? "What are you ordering?"

"Duck. Lo Mein..." John replies. They cannot remember their order.

"I'm sorry," I hang up and hand the phone to Andy. I expect him to tell me it was a joke. Hah. Hilarious.

"What did he say?" Andy asks.

"I don't know. I couldn't understand him," I reply.

"Is he here yet?" We exchange the most perplexed looks with one another. Rika is from then on the intermediary between the British-Chinese-accented Andy and the American-Mexican Chinese food delivery man.

Part III: Still Sitting Next to the Friggin' Wireless Router

The snow has stopped outside and I hear the scraping of a shovel. Herb has come to clear the treacherous steps. I go out, sensing a responsibility. "Hi Herb. I looked for a shovel... the dorm's responsibility... of course. In the future... (oops). Thanks, Herb."

"Turn down the show, girls." I return to the office. I pick up a research paper to grade. Where is the works cited, for crying out loud? This is draft two!

What is that smell? Oh, Gow.

"I am locked out of my room," Yan says.

"Here's your room's key, return it when you're done." Maybe I'll catch up on online Scrabble for a minute.

Aw, the internet is down. No problem, I'll go back to the research papers. Only 21 to go.

Sherrie, sitting just outside the office door, pokes her head around the doorframe, "Excuse me, Carolyn, the internet is not working." Fine. I restart the router. A minute passes. Still no internet.

Gow asks, "Can you access the internet settings on your computer?"

"No."

From a distance, Lia shouts, "Sherrie, could you ask Caroline to restart the router?"

I'm annoyed. That's not my name. I've already restarted the router. Find something to do that doesn't require the internet or complaining to me about the internet.

A few minutes pass. Gow speaks up again, "Can you access the internet settings from your computer?"

"No," I snap, "I already told you that." He sinks his head.

A few minutes pass in which I look at page two of a research paper about the history and importance of numbers. I have written nothing on it.

Students are coming out of their internet stupor. They are making interactive sounds. They are thinking of ways to amuse themselves that don't involve the internet. With only 25 minutes until curfew, I could have awake, alert 16-year-olds coming into the office to talk to me, to ask for food, to ask if we can have a snowball fight. This night is going downhill fast. With some guilt, I text Chad to take a look at the internet. He comes out of his apartment. He moves a wire or two. We have internet. Things quiet down. I give up on the papers. I play Scrabble. It's nice to have the internet.

Friday, October 21, 2011

New Spellings

of my last name:

Makalubs

McKlapus

McKalubs

CaryLin

Ms. Kalips

Mrs. Carolyn

Ms. Makalup

Miss. Klips

Miss. Catlips

Miss. Cowlips

Miss. Kay-lips

Miss McKaliaps

I'm serious.

Thursday, October 13, 2011

Stories from Real Life

Last night, Ben and I asked Hunchao if he was planning to go to Hershey Park with everyone else. He responded, "I don't maybe want to go because I am afraid of the holocaust." He made motions with his hand.

"You mean, 'roller coaster.'"

Panyeng is one of the burliest guys in the dorm. He's easygoing, but he's big, and he has an imposing scar on the right side of his face. Judging by looks only, he is one with whom you would hate to cross paths in a dark alley. That is why it was extra funny when he fell asleep tonight in study hall. He was in front of a computer, and unresponsive to his name. I did a quick search for puppy images, and left an especially fluffy one on his screen for when he awoke.


Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Volunteer Types

Nine students and I went to Global Aid Network's warehouse to help with the semi-annual, huge, pack-stuff-in-a-million-boxes party. We were herded in amid hundreds of volunteers and our group was assigned to help with the shoe sorting. I sent my nine to separate areas in the crowd to gain instructions from the people who already knew what they were doing. I was--I am--so proud of them. I watched them throughout our two hour bout with lots of dirty shoes. They maintained smiles; they worked hard. When the work got slow elsewhere, a few even went over to the shoe cleaning area and picked up a scrub brush. Nasty work, that.

None of these students had struck me as being any particular volunteer type. But my judgments have been poor company lately.

I wanted to name the post, "I've Got Sole But I'm Not a Soldier" That's right, a pun, folks. But I felt too much shame to retain it... and it didn't make any sense.

Monday, October 3, 2011

Conversations

I've just had a second conversation in two days with two different students about their feelings of abandonment from parents. I suppose in a high school boarding program, this is to be expected. But my heart is stirred by conversations like these. What do I have to tell them? I remember having feelings similar to these. The world is not so big, after all.

We often have questions as dorm advisers. We wonder what to do: should we allow Momo to go to New York to visit her friend, even though her mother didn't list her friend in her additional contacts, and her friend only turned 18 (literally) yesterday? No, of course. But her sister is listed as an additional contact, and it's so very important that she visit her friend! And her sister will take care that should anything happen... Should anything happen. Should anything happen--! We live in fear of anything happening. We must answer for all of it. Honestly, I feel like an unqualified babysitter much of the time (where is Stephen's manual for Babysitting Teenagers from China, Korea, and Ethiopia?).

But beautiful gifts are all mixed in with the mundane decisions. Yesterday, I was in the office during the morning. Dahin came in and we chatted about life and morals and Christ. She asked so many good questions: how are the Jews different from Christians? Why did Hitler single them out? Why does the U.S. support Israel now? I appreciated her poignant questions. My heart filled up, and I'm afraid I got long-winded.

I must not have driven her away forever, for today she came back; severely bored, she said. We talked about more of life and boys and relationships. And suddenly I did not appreciate her poignant questions as much. Later, Rika came in for grammar help on an essay. Her essay was on her "spiritual pilgrimage." She wasn't very interested in my commenting on her grammar, though. She preferred to converse about the meaning of the essay as a whole. She needed to discuss her spiritual pilgrimage, for she is in the midst of many new outlooks, filled with choices and confusion.

How do I wrap this up? That's not the end of all I have to say about my life right now. If it were the end, I hope I'd be doing something cooler than blogging.